Correct
儿大不由爹，女大不由娘
/ ér dà bù yóu diē, nǚ dà bù yóu niáng /
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Collocation
1
发出儿大不由爹，女大不由娘的感叹
2
俗话说儿大不由爹，女大不由娘
Definition
儿大不由爹，女大不由娘
Literally means:
the son disobeyed his father when he grew up, the daughter disobeyed her mother when she grew up
Actually means:
grown-up sons and daughters do not listen to their parents anymore
When boys and girls grow up, they will have their own ideas or thoughts and will not listen to their parents or follow their arrangements.
儿子或女儿长大了，有自己的想法或主意，不可事事都听从父母的安排。
Example
Used as a minor sentence or as attributive or object. (作小句、定语、宾语)
1
Ér
儿
大
dàbù
不由
yóu
爹
,
diē
女
大
nǚdà
不由
bù
娘
,
yóuniáng
儿子
ér
现在
zi
还
xiàn
不
zài
想
háibù
结婚
,
xiǎng
你
jié
就
hūn
不要
nǐjiù
老是
bù
催
yào
他
lǎo
了
。
The eldest father, the eldest can't help the mother, the son does not want to get married now, you do not always urge him.
2
Fùmǔ
父母
duì
对
wǒ
我
cízhí
辞职
de
的
shì
事
suīrán
虽然
méiyǒu
没有
jiānjué
坚决
fǎnduì
反对
,
dàn
但
què
却
fāchū
发出
ler
了
dà
儿
bù
大
yóudiē
不由
爹
,
nǚ
女
dà
大
bùyóu
不由
niáng
娘
de
的
gǎntàn
感叹
。
Although my parents did not firmly oppose my resignation, but issued a big father, the daughter can not help the mother's sigh.
3
Jùshuō
据说
yǒuxiē
有些
lǎorén
老人
zuì
最
kǔnǎo
苦恼
de
的
shì
事
jiù
就
shìr
是
儿
dà
大
bùyóu
不由
diē
爹
,
nǚ
女
dà
大
bùyóu
不由
niáng
娘
。
It is said that some old people's most distressing thing is that their children can't help their fathers, their daughters can't help their mothers.