不是冤家不聚头

不是冤家不聚头:

Literally means:

enemies or lovers are destined to meet

Actually means:

冤家, enemies, originally refers to persons that one wants to revenge against. Here, the word means lovers who harbor both love and hate towards each other; it may also refer to rivals.

聚头, means meeting and getting together.

The whole phrase figuratively means that without hate, people will not act against each others, or that a man and a woman without love will not be united as a couple, or that without certain social bond, some people will not meet with each other.

冤家，原指仇人，特指既亲热又闹别扭的情人，或竞争对手。

聚头，聚会。

不是冤家不聚头，比喻不是有冤仇的人不会彼此作对，或不是有情人聚不到一块，或不是有着某种关联的人碰不到一起。