I trust China because i'v ever live there for 6 month
(more) Living in China
Sep 05 • 1618 read
Can you Trust a Chinese?
When I decided to move to China, one of my friends, who was living and working in China for many years, told me many unexpected things about Chinese. One of the things he told me was “you can never trust the Chinese people”.
That seems very skeptical, and it can’t be exact. In the US, I have many Chinese friends and have worked broadly with Chinese people as well as had to work with a Chinese boss. I felt I have a pretty much understanding of Chinese people. At least the people I met and worked with.
Trust or Understanding
While being in China for about three years, I learned the Chinese culture every day. From learning the Chinese language, communications at work, and daily lifestyle, I observe many new things about Chinese.
Instead of saying “You can never trust Chinese”, I would say that as a Westerner you can’t completely understand the Chinese people within a few years. It may take more time, better language skills, and more absorption to completely understand the Chines standards.
The same is for the returnees, who often live many years out of the country. But they remain Chinese and when they are in China they act as Chinese.
The Chinese way of Thinking, Confucianism, face, and Guanxi
The Chinese way of thinking is deeply influenced by their cultural background. Confucianism and the impression of face and Guanxi play a significant role.
Without getting touch with Chinese cultural impacts, you will have a tough time understanding the way of Chinese thinking, communication, and behave in everyday life and business setting. It may take a long time but you will eventually learn everything about Chinese people.
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Feb 07
any country have a good person and bad person , so the right people doing the right things meet a good persons .
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Aug 05
I don't believe an entire nation can be inherently untrustworthy. As is the case with many countries, they are represented by a government. One that certainly does not reflect the views, (or willingness to be welcoming) of ever individual that resides there.
That being said, I also firmly believe that trust must be earned. Whether that be the trust of a group or an individual. Showing a genuine interest and respect for the culture, observing etiquette with sincerity, and approaching with a zero judgement attitude, are all excellent methods. No one should feel entitled to immediate trust, but if that person by nature is trustworthy they will recognize the efforts of another.
"Like recognizes like."
(more)That being said, I also firmly believe that trust must be earned. Whether that be the trust of a group or an individual. Showing a genuine interest and respect for the culture, observing etiquette with sincerity, and approaching with a zero judgement attitude, are all excellent methods. No one should feel entitled to immediate trust, but if that person by nature is trustworthy they will recognize the efforts of another.
"Like recognizes like."
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Aug 04
seeing is believing
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Apr 05
Although Confucian concepts and family relationships have a profound impact on Chinese, many Chinese now try to break these old rules.
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Oct 20
right people meet right things
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Sep 10
What is the exact way of Chinese thinking? I believe whatever you described can apply to any person in any country. It is, in the end, all about the individuals.
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Feb 09
There are always good people and bad people in a city or a country.
Do China always have good people? Do America always have bad people? I don't think so.
We can't control others, there are billions of people in the world, but we can choose to be better people ourselves
Do China always have good people? Do America always have bad people? I don't think so.
We can't control others, there are billions of people in the world, but we can choose to be better people ourselves
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Jan 29
While I like your reply as you're being positive and understanding, I would encourage everyone to expand the same concept and apply on all nationalities / ethnicity that you have met or will meet in life.
Coming from Malaysia, a multiracial country. I would say I know a thing or two about intercultural (and religion) Most of the time majority of the people, including myself, would fall into the trap of quickly judging people based on apperance, skin color, nationality and religion. After 7 years as expat in multiple countries, I've learned not to judge one based on your own logic or even so called widely accepted and recognized logic. What appears to be common sense to most of us, could be something totally new to certain people who's lack of exposure.
My two cents, same as the post owner, always try to ask the questions: why does he speak / behave this way, is there something that I might have missed? Anything I can learn about their culture in order to make our communication more efficient?
Last but not least, in fact could be the most important of all, always have good intention and believe others have the same.
(more)Coming from Malaysia, a multiracial country. I would say I know a thing or two about intercultural (and religion) Most of the time majority of the people, including myself, would fall into the trap of quickly judging people based on apperance, skin color, nationality and religion. After 7 years as expat in multiple countries, I've learned not to judge one based on your own logic or even so called widely accepted and recognized logic. What appears to be common sense to most of us, could be something totally new to certain people who's lack of exposure.
My two cents, same as the post owner, always try to ask the questions: why does he speak / behave this way, is there something that I might have missed? Anything I can learn about their culture in order to make our communication more efficient?
Last but not least, in fact could be the most important of all, always have good intention and believe others have the same.
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Jan 10
I think your mindset of 'understanding' rather than 'trusting' is quite positive. Very interesting read!
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